To Heal is to Surrender to What is
We spend our lives seeking safety, avoiding danger, resisting and rejecting what feels aversive. But it is the very act of resistance that ends up locking in and strengthening what distresses us.
When we surrender to what is, and stop trying desperately to make ourselves comfortable at all costs, we rise above survival mode. This is not the same thing as resignation at all. It is not submission. It is a letting go of the desire to reject reality as it is, that if only things were different, if only the past hadn’t happened…
The one relationship we have that truly lasts a lifetime is the one with ourselves. You, sitting back there inside. You know you are there. You can learn to relax in there. You can learn to set your heart and your mind free. You are not external events, and, just as important, you are not your thoughts or feelings. You are the audience for your life. Why not make it a good performance? You are the grand, sole witness for experience as it unfolds. You can learn to listen to the music of your heart, including the lowest of notes. Sadness and longing are beautiful. Rage is beautiful. You can learn to experience ecstasy while slowly washing your dishes or sweeping the floor.
Surrender to what is. Let what happened happen. Let the past be the past. Let your life be beautiful.
